Intimacy is a Balancing Act

In getting to know people we generally start out by playing on the surface of things, like a pond for example. We dance lightly on the very top of the water testing the dynamic energy of the one with whom we are trying to communicate. Ever so slightly we then venture a toe in the water, not too deep just a little dip then out again. Maybe they are the first to break the surface and there by they give us "permission" to do the same. So, it goes as each gets more comfortable and the desire grows to know and understand more overwhelms our senses, we get in deeper and deeper. Not every time or with every person that we meet do we feel this need. Whether it's impulsiveness, determination or methodical planning we decide on some level whithin ourselves to venture into intimacy. We can also relate this to physical intimacy, along the lines of first, second and third base, but you get the idea.

In the beginning we decide how much of ourselves to put into the pond. If we trust the other person enough to let them see us in the pond, if we want to be in the pond together, that sort of thing. Eventually though as we get more of ourselves into the water with people, determining how much of ourselves we show to the other becomes a real balancing act. Maybe they feel more comfortable and so, jump right in without hesitation.

Does that nessecitate a mutual action?

If we are the ones pushing the boundaries and they are choosing to not follow do we still push? Hoping eventually they will take our lead and just get wet.

It's a dance you know. Building intimacy with people. A dynamic, gentle, passionate, spiritual connection.
To do it well, sometimes takes practice.
To do it well takes confidence.
To do it well also, takes the right partner.
Intimacy is energy in tandem, and you know, we should all take it seriously, because after all...

Omission is Betrayal.